Celebrating an Anniversary: A Child’s Special day

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Today, March 13 is a very special day to me and my family. It’s the day my mom became mine forever. O.K. So I guess I have some explaining to do..

Reality is my mom has been mine forever, well not really but From the day I was born, she wanted a little girl. and from the day I was born I wanted a mom. I know, I know I just confused you some more. You see, I was not born to my mom. March 13 I was adopted by my mom. She got to chose me, and this little girl (ok.. not so little) got to choose her mom.wpid-20140216_174013.jpg

As a child I spent 6 years in and out of Foster homes. I was in 6 homes from the age of 2 to 6, and all I wanted was to be someone’s. I can still remember the day I first saw my mom. I was attending a regular psychiatrist appointment that the county felt was necessary for kids like me.. I was in the waiting room, waiting my turn to go in, and there were other children I was playing with. and then the most beautiful woman walks in, and she smiled at me.. and she was nice.. I did not really get a chance to talk to her.. But I went home to the foster mom I had, and told her ” I met the woman who’s going to adopt me today”. I had no clue if I would see her again, but from what mom said she went through a lot of trouble to arrange it. (She had a feeling about me, as well)

The next time my mom saw me, she told me that I would see her again. I did not believe her, and she knew that.. I was surprised when my foster worker told me that I was going to go Visit the “Nice Lady from the doctor’s office”. I got to meet my dad and spend the day with my mom, at the end of the day, I remember being asked if I wanted to come live there. I was thrilled.. Someone actually wanted me. I even was allowed to take the doll I was playing with, with me till I came back (kind of as a promise). I had never felt so wanted..

Two years later, the adoption went through, But it was not just about what my mom wanted. The judge took me aside (because at 9,, I had a say) and asked me a whole bunch of questions. But the most important one was, “Do you want to live with your mom?”

March 13, 1991 I got a mom. We have had our hard time. There have been moments when I have said mean  things to my mom, where We seriously thought it was never going to work. But over time, I got over the fears, the anxiety and the ‘terrible” teens, and fell in love with my mom all over again.

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It’s been 25 years since I came to be with my mom, and 23 since my mom became mine. I’m blessed to be able to say that I got to choose my mom. I love and appreciate her sooo much. I may have been awful and my still act awful some times, but she is mine.

Each year we are able to celebrate a choice we both made, one that I truly hope has made the difference for both of us. I know it made a big difference in my life.. I would not be the person I am today. It’s always fun to be able to celebrate together.. it’s kind of like having an extra birthday, but we both benefit!

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I figure, This year I will tell my mom thank you.. I know it’s hard and I know all the sacrifice’s you made. It was not easy adopting an older child who already had a ton of baggage. Thank you for helping me through the baggage, and helping me to grow, and learn..and thank you for not killing me!

I love you for ever and like you for always, as long as I’m living my MOMMY you will be!IMG_9211

 

I Blame You, Mom!!!!

  With Thanksgiving around the corner I have really been thinking about my life and trying to be thankful and appreciate the life I have.. But I just can’t do it.. I need to blame someone for this crazy life I have.. So I found someone to blame….

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I BLAME YOU, MOM!!!!

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I blame you for my good looks

I blame you for my sense of style

I blame you for having a good heart

I blame you for having a good work ethic

I blame you for being organized (even if it is only at work)

I blame you for my success

I blame you for learning to ask the question, even if the answer is no!

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 I blame you for my self-confidence

I blame you for teaching me that no matter what life hands to you, if you look your best and face the world with a smile, then its all going to be o.k

I blame you for  my daughter’s good behavior

I blame you for my good credit

I blame you for being honest

I blame you for not always “giving a damn”frankly-my-dear-gone-with-the-wind-gotw-rhett-butler-frankly-demotivational-poster-1249700969

I blame you for teaching me how not to be afraid of a storm

I blame you for my sense of humor

I blame you for loving too much

I blame you for teaching me how to be “friends with the monsters”

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I blame you for teaching me to always keeping the house clean, just in case we get unexpected visitors

I blame you for teaching me if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all

I blame you for being my comfort, and always having a lap I can curl up in.. Even when I got too big.

I blame you for cooking skills

I blame you for teaching me right from wrong

10220411A~Garfield-Never-Wrong-PostersI blame you for always teaching me to admit when I am wrong ( though I never am wrong)

I blame you for teaching me how to speak………………………. my mind

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I blame you for teaching me to stand up for my self

I blame you for teaching me that sticks and stones my break my bones, but mess with something you love and you’ll come after them with a shotgun (o.k. not really but you sure know how to use your words to scare them off!)sticks-and-stones

I blame you for always being there

I blame you for not being a morning person ( o.k I’m the morning person and I do blame you for not wanting to talk in the morning!!!)sleepy-1

I blame you for hours of council and for always having an ear to lend

I blame you for my favorite bed time story

I blame you for sick soup

I blame you for the knowledge I have

I blame you for teaching me to count my many blessings

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I blame you for teaching me if you wanted it done right in the first place you should have done it yourself

I blame you for always loving me.. even though you might not like the way I was acting, talking, or what I was doing

I blame you for being my biggest fan

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I blame you for trying to teach me patience

I blame you for the constant support

I blame you for never giving up on me

Realistically, do you want me to go on?

I blame you for teaching me how to be a mom

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I blame you for this blog!!!

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I blame you for teaching me that there is no one to blame but ourselves..

Although some how I just got away with blaming you for my entire life. I feel so blessed to have you for my mom.. and I am grateful ever day for you.. You have no clue how much easier you have made my life, and how much meaning you add to my life!!

Like my favorite bedtime story says..

I love you forever, I like you for always, as long as I’m living my mommy you’ll be!IMG_9211